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It is normal to be curious about the past, but not to an extent that it becomes an obsession. Fehr recommends taking some time to reconnect with your own desires, values, and most importantly, boundaries. On the other hand when we begin to see problems in our relationships or we create conflict where there is none, that's when our insecurities are a problem.
If this is something you're experiencing in your relationship, then your man is dating an insecure woman. Simultaneously, they'll probably take a keen interest in whether you have any contact with your ex. As time goes on, his external communications to you increasingly reflect his hypercritical inner dialogue.