Martina channelFrom Miramar
Dating a white woman dating online who fetishize white woman in meeting up with white women? And then there was another. Oh, and we can't take a joke. I couldn't deny that those characteristics had been among those that drew me to him, but they were no longer among the things that most attracted me to him. And it's never easy.
When preference is coloured with years of viewing black men and women as inferior and not worthy of attraction let alone love, it is difficult to prove that preference is simply preference and not awash with racist undertones. Drew held my hand as we walked through the neighborhood, and he told stories to try and distract me from my panic. I have my own unique experiences and some of them include having dated women who are white, but because interracial dating is such a historically tense and loaded subject, it's hardly ever looked at with any understanding or compassion for the people personally involved. This construction of beauty is firmly grounded in the racialized and gendered deep frame that whites and many people of color see, understand, and make interpretations from.